I stopped in mid-email to watch the rest of the show because Oprah's laughter made me curious about what Harvey was talking about. Well, I only really watched the last 15 minutes. But I seemed to have caught some good tid bits.
"If you're a secretary, you're a secretary.
- What are your short term goals?
- What are your long term goals?
(Short & long must be different!)
- What are your views on relationships?
Ask about his relationship with his mother. If it's non-existent, it's a red flag!
"If he can't love his mother, he's incapable of loving you"
- What do you think about me?
He may say, "I think you're independent / you'll make a great mother...etc"
- How do you feel about me?
He may say, "I feel like when I'm not with you, I ain't gonna make it"
He may even say, "I love you" - which is what most of us just want to hear.