Wednesday, July 22, 2009

"Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" - Steve Harvey on Oprah

I was catching up with daily online admin with OPRAH on TV in the background. American comedian and entertainer, Steve Harvey was on talking about his book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man - What men really think about love, relationships, intimacy & commitment.

I stopped in mid-email to watch the rest of the show because Oprah's laughter made me curious about what Harvey was talking about. Well, I only really watched the last 15 minutes. But I seemed to have caught some good tid bits.

There was a woman Skyping in - One day she was home from work (alone) and she heard a vibrating sound. It wasn't her phone, and her boyfriend was out and had his phone with him. So she hunted down the vibrating buzz and found another cellphone in a piece of luggage. Turns out it was the boyfriends "other" cellphone. There was a woman calling him. Apparently, there were about 35 names (all women) stored on the phone and also had text messages along the lines of "I love you" & "I want to feel you tonight".

The girlfriend who'd found the phone had been going steady with this dude for 4 years. When he arrived home, she told him that he had 3 hours to pack his bags and leave. So this girl's question to men:

"If you're going to cheat, why do you proceed to commitment?"

Ok so at this point, I got a call and was distracted for about 2 minutes.

The next woman to ask a question was a 53-year old woman who'd just been on a date with a guy. She wanted to know about being "obliged" to sleep with a man after he's spent money on you.

Harvey's answer:

"If you're a secretary, you're a secretary.
If you're a nail tech, you're a nail tech.
If you're a hooker, you're a hooker."

YOU determine what you're worth!

Also, loved this:

5 Questions to ask a guy

  1. What are your short term goals?
  2. What are your long term goals?
    (Short & long must be different!)
  3. What are your views on relationships?
    Ask about his relationship with his mother. If it's non-existent, it's a red flag!
    "If he can't love his mother, he's incapable of loving you"
  4. What do you think about me?
    He may say, "I think you're independent / you'll make a great mother...etc"
  5. How do you feel about me?
    He may say, "I feel like when I'm not with you, I ain't gonna make it"
    He may even say, "I love you" - which is what most of us just want to hear.
Steve Harvey is hilarious - definitely gonna give his book a read: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man


Anonymous said...

HI Sheetal
My sista are going crazy about this book, and there bootleg versions of it doing the rounds. I've read a few chapters. Very interesting.
From the 411 i got from reading it, Steve is trying to let sisters into the minds of brothas. And there I was thinking we were too easy to read. In the same breath, I think Steve is telling sistas to tollerate our behavoir more that trying to find out why we behave the way we do.
Nonetheless its a fun, good book to have in your collection.

Sheetal said...

We should all learn to tolerate e'other. Brothers & sisters have to stop the hating and just deal that we're all different. Men are from Mars - Women are from Venus! Now I'm very curious to get my hands on this! I love the title.